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Trusting God and His Methods

God is our Creator. He knows what is best for us. But don’t you find yourself sometimes as a perpetual teenager, thinking your Creator doesn’t know best?

 

Well, here’s yet another testament that He truly knows best. Dr. Lazar Greenfield, a highly respected surgeon and inventor, published an article recently that touted the Zen-like benefits of semen on women.  He cited research that said that women who had sex without any barriers (condoms, etc.) were significantly less depressed than women who used condoms or were abstinent. Unfortunately, Dr. Greenfield resigned this week because of significant public pressure from feminist groups who aren’t happy that a high-profile medical professional was touting the benefits of male-female relations or “sexism” as they call it. Confused? So are we.

 

When married couples engage in relations as God intended, without any barriers, they get some great rewards in the mental health department. The Catholic Church has always recognized the holiness of the marital act (Genesis even says that a man should leave his family and “cleave to his wife and the two shall become one flesh”) and in her wisdom, decidedly condemned the birth control pill when other faiths were saying that it’s fine to use for contraception, even in marriage (see Humanae Vitae).

 

Which is why it was really disappointing to see a study by the Guttmacher Institute (the research arm of Planned Parenthood) say that 98% of Catholic women use birth control methods banned by the Catholic Church. 98%! In several dioceses across the country, engaged couples have to go through a Natural Family Planning course before they get married where they learn all about why the Church teaches NFP and how to go about implementing it in their marriage. What happened to them? Or their parents?

 

For those who do adhere to NFP, the benefits are immense. Not only are these couples following the Church’s teachings, but they are a reflection of Christ and his bride, the Church, in that He gave fully of himself to her, holding nothing back. Husband and wives are called to imitate that love, holding nothing back from each other, including their fertility. If used correctly, NFP has a 99% success rate in helping couples avoid a pregnancy if they are called to hold off on having kids for the time being.

 

The marital act, as God intended it to be, is something wonderful for husbands and wives and gives each of them immense benefits not only spiritually but as science has proven, physically and mentally as well.

 

Time and time again, God shows us one way or another that He knows best. Let’s stop fighting Him like teenagers and follow His will because He surely has our best interests in mind.

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The Catholic Vote 2010 — Will You Vote Your Faith?

We are now just inside of one month until election day.  The question we have for our Catholic family, friends, fellow parishioners and co-workers is:  Are you praying, reflecting and ready to Vote Your Faith in 2010?  Given the nature of the mainstream media today, many folks simply don’t know where candidates stand on issues.  It is our goal to help educate committed Catholics about the issues in this campaign that impact our faith or are in direct conflict with it.

We as Catholics are called to practice our faith in the voting booth.  In fact, in the past two elections cycles Pope Benedict XVI outlined a three point model to reflect on before voting.

Benedict XVI said that the focus of public interventions by the Catholic Church “is the protection and promotion of the dignity of the person and she is thereby consciously drawing particular attention to principles which are not negotiable.”

The Pope spelled out these principles thus:

– “protection of life in all its stages, from the first moment of conception to natural death”;

– “recognition and promotion of the natural structure of the family — as a union between a man and a woman based on marriage — and its defense from attempts to make it juridically equivalent to radically different forms of union which in reality harm it and contribute to its de-stabilization, obscuring its particular character and its irreplaceable social role”;

– and “the protection of the right of parents to educate their children.”

Common to all

Benedict XVI clarified: “These principles are not truths of faith, even though they receive further light and confirmation from faith; they are inscribed in human nature itself and therefore they are common to all humanity.”

So, what are some important Catholic issues before us this election cycle? 

1.  Taxpayer funding of abortion in health care.  When President Obama signed the health care law, he signed a law that opened the flood gates for taxpayer funding of abortion.  Americans United for Life Action has launched a “Life Counts” campaign targeting specific members of Congress who voted to force taxpayers to fund abortion.  See if your Congressman is on the list here.  If so, call him or her and let them know you will not be voting for them because they support the radical policy of forcing taxpayers to fund abortion.

Find out:  Did candidates seeking your vote this November, support Obamacare? If they voted for Obamacare, they voted to force taxpayers to fund abortion.  Vote them out and support a candidate running to repeal Obamacare and end taxpayer funding for abortion throughout the federal government by supporting Smith-Lipinski (see number 2).

2. Ending taxpayer funding of abortion in all federal government agencies. Representatives Chris Smith (R-NJ) and Dan Lipinski (D-IL) have introduced a bipartisan bill to end taxpayer funding of abortion across the federal government.  The bill has 150 original cosponsors, including 16 Democrats.  Read more on the bill here.

Ask candidates for Congress or Senate in your state:  Do you support the bipartisan Smith-Lipinski bill in the House, which would end taxpayer funding of abortion across the federal government?  If they do, support them.  If they don’t, vote them out.

3.  Taxpayer funding of human experimentation through embryo research.  Senator Arlen Specter (D-PA) and Representative Diana DeGette (D-CO) have introduced legislation to not only have taxpayers fund embryonic stem cell research, but also opens the door to taxpayer funded cloning. To learn more about this issue go here.

Find out: Do candidates running for Congress seeking your vote support Specter-DeGette and taxpayer funding of human experimentation through embryo research?  If they do, vote them out by supporting candidates who oppose embryonic stem cell research.

4.  Traditional marriage is under attack across the country and key elections in Maine, New Hampshire, Minnesota, and Iowa could weigh heavily on the future of the marriage issue. In each of these states, public support continues to fall on the side of protecting marriage as the union of one man and one woman, yet we have elected officials who continue to push against the voters’ say on the marriage issue, and who are taking matter into their own hands – whether it be a Governor or a state supreme court justice. The National Organization for Marriage has all the info you need here.

Find out—do candidates seeking your vote support marriage as defined between one man and one woman?  If not, vote them out by supporting candidates that support marriage.

5.  School choice.  One would think all would agree that parents should have the right to decide what education, including homeschooling, options are best for their kids.  Yet many liberals and unions fight against this very basic civil right across the country from the smallest town to the largest city.  Learn more about school choice issues here.

Find out: Do candidates seeking your vote this November support school choice?  If not, vote them out by supporting candidates who do support school choice.

6.  Supreme Court and Judges:  Senators have amazing power.  They have a vote to determine who will sit on various levels of our federal judiciary and apply laws and bring justice.  Yet the biggest injustice our country faces today is the over 50 million babies who have been murdered thanks to a Supreme Court ruling.

It is important that as Catholics we vote for Senate candidates who commit to voting for judges who apply the law and not support judicial nominees who legislate from the bench.  The most notorious example of legislating from the bench was the 1973 Roe Vs. Wade decision in the Supreme Court, which made abortion on demand the law of the land.

Find out: Do your Senate candidates support judges who apply the law and consider Roe vs Wade legislating from the bench and a bad decision?  If they do, support them.  If they don’t, vote them out.  You can learn more about judicial issues here.

For more information you can also visit CatholicVote and Catholic Answers, both terrific organizations assisting Catholics seeking to learn more about issues important to Catholics and where candidates stand.

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Male and Female He Created Them

United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB) is launching an educational guide on marriage called Marriage: Unique for a Reason. Here are some details:

Marriage: Unique for a Reason provides resources to assist with the catechesis and education of Catholics on why marriage is unique and why it should be promoted and protected as the union of one man and one woman. The initiative will eventually include five videos with companion viewer’s guides, resource booklets, and an interactive Web site.

Check out the great vidoe here:

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IVF Babies Being Aborted

One of the arguments against in-vitro fertilization that the Catholic Church makes is that a baby should not be made into commodity – something that is bought or sold at whim….and something that can easily be discarded. IVF is a tough subject because of all the emotions that go into truly wanting to have a child and being unable to for some reason or another. There are many heartbreaking stories of childless parents who would do anything to conceive and bring a child into the world.

But as Pope John Paul II taught, the end cannot justify the means: “It is not licit to do evil that good may come of it.”[iv]

And now we come to a story that exemplifies how having a baby through IVF turns a baby into a commodity.

“About 80 unborn babies conceived by in vitro fertilization (IVF) are eliminated by abortion each year in Great Britain, according to a new report…. The statistics from Britain’s Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority (HFEA) show an increasing number of women are choosing abortion for ‘social,’ rather than medical reasons after becoming pregnant by IVF, The Times reported June 6.” 

It’s not like these women had an unexpected pregnancy. They aborted mostly for “social” reasons, reasons that (not to be judgmental) put the lives of their baby on the backburner and put their needs and wants above anything else. One woman said that her marriage was falling apart at the time she got pregnant via IVF and that she “didn’t want any link” that would force her to stay in touch with her husband. Not to say that a marriage wouldn’t fall apart if the baby was conceived through the loving marital act of selfless giving of each other, but it just seems so cold that the resulting child in this situation would merely be a link to her husband and not the result of love, even if it no longer exists, a human person in its own right.

As R. Albert Mohler Jr., president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, wrote on his blog: “We are witnessing the elevation of personal autonomy, personal happiness, and personal fulfillment to levels that can only be described as idolatry.”

 If this is happening in Great Britain, the likelihood that the same thing is happening in the US is very high. When will we wake up to the atrocities of trying to play God?

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Cohabitation Is Not Healthcare

Health Care Bill Discriminates Against Marriage

As each day goes by, more of what is contained in the healthcare legislation is exposed. House Republican leader John Boehner of Ohio reveals in a news conference that the House bill contains a severe “marriage penalty” for middle class couples. Under the bill, couples living together would spend less on health insurance than married couples. Here are the relevant facts as reported by the Catholic News Agency:

…under the House bill an unmarried couple with an income of $25,000 each would have a premium cap of $3,076, but if they marry their $50,000 combined income would make their annual premium cap jump to $5,160.

Now for members of secular society, concerns about cohabitation might be an outdated or silly notion, but for Catholics this is a real concern.  The Church teaches that living together and sexual union before marriage is inherently sinful and trivializes the sacredness of the marital sacrament (Catechism of the Catholic Church, nos. 2350-2400) Catholics should not be financially penalized for staying true to our faith, and we don’t need additional financial pressure to be added to the many other cultural pressures that encourage young people today to cohabitate.

Many readers of Saint Michael Society will be contacting their elected officials concerning the abortion funding. Please include this item in your talking points. Healthcare should reinforce marriage not encourage cohabitation.

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Good News and Bad News on the Marriage Front

The good news is that NY became the latest in a series of states rejecting legalized so-called gay marriage

The bad news is that the DC City Council voted in favor of a measure that would legalize same-sex marriage in the district.  This isn’t the end of the story for DC as there are a couple more hurdles that the measure has to jump through before it becomes law, but it will be a tough battle for people who are against this redefinition of marriage as the media in DC has been relentless in its attacks against groups like the Catholic Church who are fighting the measure.

SMS will keep you updated on these state battles over marriage, so check back often for the latest – especially as the DC situation moves ahead.  And don’t forget to read the US Bishops’ approved statement on marriage from their fall meeting.  It provides a tremendous defense of marriage as well as useful explanations for the Church’s position.

 

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DC to Catholics – Celebrate Homosexuality or Leave

With their vote last night D.C. Council members are forcing Catholics in DC to abandon their faith teachings.  Supported by a hostile anti-Church media, the facts concerning the legislation are muddled.  The city is saying in order to operate in DC, institutions need to be secular.

Take a moment and learn the truth.  http://www.adw.org/family/marriage_ssm.asp

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More information on Catholic Church and marriage – http://www.foryourmarriage.org/

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Bishops Defend Marriage Against Attacks

As I was preparing a write-up on the US Bishop’s plan to issue a document in defense of marriage, many people asked me if this was even needed.  With Health Care, the housing crisis, the economic downturn, and the situation in the Middle East, is there really a need to start shadowboxing over every issue?

As it turns out, the Bishop’s document on marriage just may arrive on the scene at the right time as the Obama’s Administration theme - ‘Never waste a good crisis’ – continues to produce attacks on some very fundamental levels of society.

Last week, CNSNews.com reported on an event co-sponsered by none other than the NEA called “Getting Sex Education Right in America.”  One of the main discussion points during the event was the unfortunate fact that for too long now our schools in America have pushed a “heterosexual marriage agenda” where kids are programmed to think  that monogomous, heterosexual marriages are the way in which humans can grow up happy and healthy.  This, they say, is “obnoxious and harmful” programming  that has discriminated against homosexuals and other teens who want to live alternative lifestyles.

Now, we have been hearing this sort of drivel from the NEA for years, but the problem gets a little more complicated when the president hand-picks a person to be the Safe Schools Czar who happens to have the exact same beliefs.  If you haven’t heard about him already, then let me introduce you to Kevin Jennings - the person Obama thinks is best suited to keep our school children safe…

 
Yes, you heard that correctly.  Obama’s Safe School Czar, the man hand-picked to ensure that we have safe schools in America, believes that our curriculum is designed to trick people into being heterosexual.  When you couple this with the NEA’s belief that monogamy and marriage promotion is “obnoxious and harmful” then the stage is definitely set for a battle over morality in schools.

Unfortunately, that is not the only assault on marriage.  In a little under two weeks, Maine will be the latest state to take up the marriage issue on a ballot that could prevent same-sex marriages.  It shouldn’t surprise anyone that same-sex marriage advocates see the Catholic Church as the biggest obstacle to their movement.  This is confirmed by the fact that they have decided to subtly play the Catholic card in their ads against traditional marriage.  Here is the latest example…

 

Notice the subtle mention of her being a lifelong Catholic just prior to her public support of something that is about as contrary to Sacramental Theology as you can get.  Given all of the above, we are obviously in for battle over marriage in this country.

Enter the US Bishops…

Earlier this month, the National Conference of Catholic Bishops released a draft of a pastoral letter on marriage that they plan to discuss and officially issue at their annual meeting this fall.  After having read the draft, I must say that it is a breath of fresh air to see such a clear and thoughtful defense of marriage, and one that is intended to be read by everyone and not just people with advanced degrees in Theology.  It equips all Catholics with the tools to defend against many of the assaults on marriage that we now find coming from our government.

the future of humanity depends on marriage and the family.”

The letter brilliantly makes the connection between all of the previous attacks against marriage and how they have led us to this crucial moment where we face the ultimate redefinition of marriage in accepting so-called same-sex marriages.

After dealing extensively with issues such as contraception, divorce, and even cohabitation with direct yet pastoral clarity, they conclude that “reflecting losses in the understanding of the purposes of marriage… couples more readily treat as separate the decision to get married and the decision to have children.” This redefinition of marriage produces trends to accept things such as so-called same-sex marriages.  This, the say “indicates a mentality in which children are not seen as integral to a marriage but are seen as an afterthought” producing damaging consequences for children, couples, their marriage and eventually all of society.

The result is that people approach marriage as an individualistic endeavor instead of seeing its relation to the good of all society.  The “me” mentality that is perpetuated in a growing welfare state has now infected even the most sacred institutions.

One of the best points of the letter, then, is pointing out how the current attacks on marriage are indeed a redefinition of it.  A selfless giving of oneself to another with the purpose of unifying male and female in an act of procreative love and producing an environment for the upbringing and education of children, is the polar opposite of the individualistic expression of sexual pleasure, with children as an afterthought, that has become the norm for the modern thinking on marriage.  Clearly, the Bishops say, if the former is your idea of marriage then, by definition,  there can be no such thing as same-sex marriage.  But, if the latter is your idea of marriage, then same-sex marriage (and a whole lot more) is  not only possible, but seems to be called for in the name of justice.

So, this is very much a war of philosophies, and we are right to insist that marriage is being redefined by these attacks.  So, while people with same-sex attractions are “to be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity,” this does not demand a redefinition of marriage.

As the bishops conclude… “Today, advocacy for the legal recognition of same-sex relationships is often equated with non-discrimination, fairness, equality, and civil rights. However, it is not unjust to oppose legal recognition of same-sex relationships, because marriage and same-sex unions are essentially different realities.”

To read the full draft of the Bishop’s letter, go here.

- Patrick Looby

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Spotlight: Archbishop Chaput – A Contemporary St. Michael

As we were combing through the early morning clips, we came across a number of stories today mentioning Denver Archbishop Cardinal Charles J. Chaput’s contestation of a Vatican Cardinals’ pro-Obama essay that appeared over the summer in the International Catholic magazine 30 Days http://bit.ly/IaHAV

Written by Cardinal Georges Cottier, a Swiss Dominican who served as the Theologian of the Pontifical Household from 1990 to 2005, the piece keyed off of President Obama’s speech at Notre Dame.  In his piece, Cardinal Cottier defends and attempts to rationalize President Obama’s speech suggesting it “gave a glimpse of politics that can be usefully compared with fundamental elements of the social doctrine of the Catholic Church.”  But what shocked many Catholics around the world was Cardinal Cottier’s claim that the President’s comments pertaining to abortion were a “humble realism.” 

American Catholics awaited a response.  Well, as the saying goes – “good things come to those who wait.”  In today’s edition of the popular and influential Italian daily, Il Foglio,  Archbishop Chaput firmly and articulately contests Cardinal Cottier’s pro-Obama essay of July 3 — strike up the Notre Dame fight song and read it here…  http://bit.ly/2kTK55 

Following on the call of John Paul II and Pope Benedict XVI for Catholics to engage in the public debate over the great challenging issues of our day, Archbishop Chaput is in many ways a modern day St. Michael, defending the Catholic faith both within the Catholic community and more broadly in the public square.  He is consistently a defender of the unborn and for traditional marriage.  He is elegantly outspoken in the Church’s opposition to embryonic stem cell research. 

Denver Archbishop Charles J. Chaput

Denver Archbishop Charles J. Chaput

While the debate over Notre Dame’s invitation for President Obama to speak and their subsequent awarding of him through an honorary degree may have abated, each Saturday as the “Fighting” Irish tee up the ball for kick off, many Catholics cringe in memory of this sad day for American Catholocism.  For those Catholics we encourage a read of Archbishop Chaput’s response to Cardinal Cottier.  Maybe even file it away and before the next kick-off, give it a read.  Thanks to Archbishop Chaput for standing up for our faith, even when it may mean calling out a Vatican Cardinal.

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