Category Archives: marriage

In Christ, “I Do”

Summer is nearly here and wedding season is offically upon us.

“You may kiss the cross” is not exactly a phrase we’re used to hearing as the happy couple exchanges vows.

But it should be!

There is a beautiful tradition in the Croatian culture for weddings that we recently learned about from a column on RenewAmerica. It is a custom using a crucifix that centers the bride and groom on their life in Christ Jesus and His cross ”represents the greatest love and the crucifix is the treasure of the home.

When the bride and groom set off for the church, they bring a crucifix with them. The priest blesses the crucifix, which takes on a central role during the exchange of vows. The bride places her right hand on the crucifix and the groom places his hand over hers. Thus the two hands are bound together on the cross. The priest covers their hands with his stole as they proclaim their vows to be faithful, according to the rites of the Church…. the bride and groom do not then kiss each other, they rather kiss the cross. They know that they are kissing the source of love. Anyone close enough to see their two hands joined over the cross understands clearly that if the husband abandons his wife or if the wife abandons her husband, they let go of the cross. And if they abandon the cross, they have nothing left. They have lost everything for they have abandoned Jesus. They have lost Jesus.

Read more about  this custom, how it has transformed the Croatian people and the beauty of making the cross the center of the wedding ceremony and marriage here.

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The Catholic Vote 2010 — Will You Vote Your Faith?

We are now just inside of one month until election day.  The question we have for our Catholic family, friends, fellow parishioners and co-workers is:  Are you praying, reflecting and ready to Vote Your Faith in 2010?  Given the nature of the mainstream media today, many folks simply don’t know where candidates stand on issues.  It is our goal to help educate committed Catholics about the issues in this campaign that impact our faith or are in direct conflict with it.

We as Catholics are called to practice our faith in the voting booth.  In fact, in the past two elections cycles Pope Benedict XVI outlined a three point model to reflect on before voting.

Benedict XVI said that the focus of public interventions by the Catholic Church “is the protection and promotion of the dignity of the person and she is thereby consciously drawing particular attention to principles which are not negotiable.”

The Pope spelled out these principles thus:

– “protection of life in all its stages, from the first moment of conception to natural death”;

– “recognition and promotion of the natural structure of the family — as a union between a man and a woman based on marriage — and its defense from attempts to make it juridically equivalent to radically different forms of union which in reality harm it and contribute to its de-stabilization, obscuring its particular character and its irreplaceable social role”;

– and “the protection of the right of parents to educate their children.”

Common to all

Benedict XVI clarified: “These principles are not truths of faith, even though they receive further light and confirmation from faith; they are inscribed in human nature itself and therefore they are common to all humanity.”

So, what are some important Catholic issues before us this election cycle? 

1.  Taxpayer funding of abortion in health care.  When President Obama signed the health care law, he signed a law that opened the flood gates for taxpayer funding of abortion.  Americans United for Life Action has launched a “Life Counts” campaign targeting specific members of Congress who voted to force taxpayers to fund abortion.  See if your Congressman is on the list here.  If so, call him or her and let them know you will not be voting for them because they support the radical policy of forcing taxpayers to fund abortion.

Find out:  Did candidates seeking your vote this November, support Obamacare? If they voted for Obamacare, they voted to force taxpayers to fund abortion.  Vote them out and support a candidate running to repeal Obamacare and end taxpayer funding for abortion throughout the federal government by supporting Smith-Lipinski (see number 2).

2. Ending taxpayer funding of abortion in all federal government agencies. Representatives Chris Smith (R-NJ) and Dan Lipinski (D-IL) have introduced a bipartisan bill to end taxpayer funding of abortion across the federal government.  The bill has 150 original cosponsors, including 16 Democrats.  Read more on the bill here.

Ask candidates for Congress or Senate in your state:  Do you support the bipartisan Smith-Lipinski bill in the House, which would end taxpayer funding of abortion across the federal government?  If they do, support them.  If they don’t, vote them out.

3.  Taxpayer funding of human experimentation through embryo research.  Senator Arlen Specter (D-PA) and Representative Diana DeGette (D-CO) have introduced legislation to not only have taxpayers fund embryonic stem cell research, but also opens the door to taxpayer funded cloning. To learn more about this issue go here.

Find out: Do candidates running for Congress seeking your vote support Specter-DeGette and taxpayer funding of human experimentation through embryo research?  If they do, vote them out by supporting candidates who oppose embryonic stem cell research.

4.  Traditional marriage is under attack across the country and key elections in Maine, New Hampshire, Minnesota, and Iowa could weigh heavily on the future of the marriage issue. In each of these states, public support continues to fall on the side of protecting marriage as the union of one man and one woman, yet we have elected officials who continue to push against the voters’ say on the marriage issue, and who are taking matter into their own hands – whether it be a Governor or a state supreme court justice. The National Organization for Marriage has all the info you need here.

Find out—do candidates seeking your vote support marriage as defined between one man and one woman?  If not, vote them out by supporting candidates that support marriage.

5.  School choice.  One would think all would agree that parents should have the right to decide what education, including homeschooling, options are best for their kids.  Yet many liberals and unions fight against this very basic civil right across the country from the smallest town to the largest city.  Learn more about school choice issues here.

Find out: Do candidates seeking your vote this November support school choice?  If not, vote them out by supporting candidates who do support school choice.

6.  Supreme Court and Judges:  Senators have amazing power.  They have a vote to determine who will sit on various levels of our federal judiciary and apply laws and bring justice.  Yet the biggest injustice our country faces today is the over 50 million babies who have been murdered thanks to a Supreme Court ruling.

It is important that as Catholics we vote for Senate candidates who commit to voting for judges who apply the law and not support judicial nominees who legislate from the bench.  The most notorious example of legislating from the bench was the 1973 Roe Vs. Wade decision in the Supreme Court, which made abortion on demand the law of the land.

Find out: Do your Senate candidates support judges who apply the law and consider Roe vs Wade legislating from the bench and a bad decision?  If they do, support them.  If they don’t, vote them out.  You can learn more about judicial issues here.

For more information you can also visit CatholicVote and Catholic Answers, both terrific organizations assisting Catholics seeking to learn more about issues important to Catholics and where candidates stand.

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What if Catholics, Voted Catholic?

There is a lot at stake for our culture and country as we head into the 2010 election cycle.  We cannot afford to sit idly by as bad health care law leads to rationed care and euthanasia….as taxpayers are forced to pay for human experimentation through embryonic stem cell research….as over 4,000 pre-born babies are aborted daily, some of them paid for by taxpayers….as our public schools and universities teach to a material, Godless world…as our elected officials propose policies that lead to population control….the list goes on and on.

This November, we need to work to get our Catholic family members, friends and fellow parishioners out to vote.

SMS will soon launch a Vote Your Faith Campaign.  Each week we will highlight key races, candidates and issues important to Catholics and a culture of life.

We will be working with other Catholic organizations such Catholic Vote and Catholic Answers to serve as an information provider to Catholics through the country.  We hope you will join us by becoming a Catholic Activist this election cycle.  All you need to do to be a Catholic Activist is agree you will consider voting your faith and see where politicians seeking your vote stand on key Catholic issues.

To get things off the ground, we encourage you to consider reading this letter from Catholic Answers President Karl Keating, outlining CA’s plans to produce and mass distribute Catholic Voter Guides throughout the country.  An excerpt from the letter could not make things clearer:

If Catholics—who are about 23% of the population—had consistently voted in line with Church teaching over the last few decades (and had insisted that their elected representatives do likewise), our society would look much different.

We have virtually unrestricted abortion? We wouldn’t, if America’s Catholics had raised a ruckus about it forty years ago—and kept raising a ruckus.

We have embryonic stem-cell research? We wouldn’t, if Catholics had told Congress, “Not with our money, you don’t!”

We have same-sex “marriage” and euthanasia and even human cloning making headway? We wouldn’t, if Catholics had been persistent in voting according to Church teaching on these matters.

But the sad fact is that Catholics haven’t voted like Catholics. They haven’t really made their faith part of their civic lives.

Please join us and help us spread the word.  Be an activist for our Catholic Faith.

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Male and Female He Created Them

United States Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB) is launching an educational guide on marriage called Marriage: Unique for a Reason. Here are some details:

Marriage: Unique for a Reason provides resources to assist with the catechesis and education of Catholics on why marriage is unique and why it should be promoted and protected as the union of one man and one woman. The initiative will eventually include five videos with companion viewer’s guides, resource booklets, and an interactive Web site.

Check out the great vidoe here:

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Father Fessio Defends Pope and Sets Record Straight

Many priests in parishes this weekend recounted this piece by Father Fessio, the editor and Founder of Ignatius Press, dealing with the consistent attacks on Pope Benedict XVI.

Father Fessio writes: The so-called “stalled pedophile case”, blame for which has been laid at the feet of then-Cardinal Ratzinger, had nothing to do with pedophilia and everything to do with strengthening marriage and the priesthood.

Read full article here.

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Santorum: Opponents of Same-Sex Marriage Have Faced Persecution in California

Former pro-life, pro-family Pennsylvania Senator Rick Santorum, has a terrific piece today in the Philadelphia Inquirer revealing the campaign of hate and intimidation waged by the pro-gay marriage community in California against supporters of Proposition 8.  In the November 2008 election Prop 8 was reaffirmed by a vote of 6,838,107 / 52.3% Yes votes to 6,246,463 / 47.7% No votes. 

Sen. Santorum reports:

The reaction of some Prop 8 opponents – the self-proclaimed champions of tolerance – was swift and fierce. They moved to harass and persecute Prop 8 supporters. 

Groups such as the misnamed “Californians Against Hate” published blacklists of Prop 8 backers that included supporters’ names and addresses. Prop 8 advocates became the target of harassing protests, phone calls, e-mails, and mailings.

A flier distributed in one town featured a photo of one Prop 8 backer, his name, the amount of his donation, and the name of his (Catholic) church. Next to his photo was the word “Bigot.”

Some Prop 8 campaign donors had to resign from their jobs or take leaves of absence to protect their employers and colleagues. Top officials of California Musical Theatre and the Los Angeles Film Festival were forced to resign just because they had donated in support of Prop 8.

That wasn’t all. These warriors for the oppressed also made a point of going after pro-Prop 8 Mormons and their church.

Despite having passed twice in California including by 61% of the vote in the 2000 election, the pro-gay marriage movement continues to try to reject the will of the people.

To learn more about the ongoing fight to defend marriage in California and throughout the country, you can visit www.nationformarriage.org.

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Good News and Bad News on the Marriage Front

The good news is that NY became the latest in a series of states rejecting legalized so-called gay marriage

The bad news is that the DC City Council voted in favor of a measure that would legalize same-sex marriage in the district.  This isn’t the end of the story for DC as there are a couple more hurdles that the measure has to jump through before it becomes law, but it will be a tough battle for people who are against this redefinition of marriage as the media in DC has been relentless in its attacks against groups like the Catholic Church who are fighting the measure.

SMS will keep you updated on these state battles over marriage, so check back often for the latest – especially as the DC situation moves ahead.  And don’t forget to read the US Bishops’ approved statement on marriage from their fall meeting.  It provides a tremendous defense of marriage as well as useful explanations for the Church’s position.

 

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DC City Council Playing Politics with the Poor and Trampling on Religion

by Patrick Looby

 

Suppose Governor George Wallace of Alabama had told the Catholic Archdiocese of Mobile that as a condition of receiving state aid for social services it had to stop performing interracial marriages – compelling it to accept his view that blacks and whites should remain segregated.  Then, suppose that the Archdiocese responded by stating that since such an imposition would violate their beliefs about marriage that they would be forced to stop receiving state aid and would then have to close down some of its services to the poor. 

 

No one would have seen this as the Church playing politics with the poor, but rather as Governor Wallace using the poor in order to push an agenda of segregation onto the Church.  No one in their right mind would have said something inane like “the message that the Church is sending with its action is wrong, and has left me and countless other Catholics heartbroken.”  Rather, the Church would have been praised for sticking to its fundamental beliefs in the face of government pressure to redefine its creed. 

 

This is the hypothetical example that Bill Donahue of the Catholic League gives in his response to those who object to the decision of the Archdiocese of Washington to close some of its social services if the city attempts to compel them to accept the idea of same-sex marriage as a result of receiving state aid for those services.  And despite the ramblings of the left-leaning media, this is a clear case of the DC City Council playing politics with the poor and trampling on the free practice of religion. 

 

Yet, this doesn’t stop people like Petula Dvorak  of the Washington Post from accusing the Church of unjust discrimination and being on the ’wrong side of history.’  In typical liberal fashion, Dvorak’s revisionist history ignores the fact that the Catholic Church was a lone voice for the proper treatment of homosexuals back in the 1980′s at the height of the AIDS crisis.

 

Writing an instruction to Bishops in 1986, Cardinal Ratzinger (now Benedict XVI) pleaded with Americans to remember that “it is deplorable that homosexual persons have been and are the object of violent malice in speech or in action. Such treatment deserves condemnation from the Church’s pastors wherever it occurs. It reveals a kind of disregard for others which endangers the most fundamental principles of a healthy society. The intrinsic dignity of each person must always be respected in word, in action and in law.”

 

 

So,while Catholics may disagree with Dvorak’s conclusions about same-sex marriage, it is very nice to see that she and her friends in the liberal media have finally caught up to the Catholic Church’s 25 year plea for an end to the maltreatment of homosexuals in society – even if it’s only because it is now fashionable for them to do so.

 

Though she appears to care only for the poor and is not interested in making “an argument in favor of same-sex marriage,” Dvorak’s feigned emotional plea for the poor is nothing more than spin and an obvious tone-deafness in regard to Catholic theology.mother theresa

 

 The bottom line is that the Catholic Church is the largest charitable organization because it believes in certain truths – truths that come directly from the teaching of Christ. And those truths are intimately wrapped up into seven simple, yet profound, acts called the Sacraments. It is from the grace received in these sacraments that the Church is driven to build more hospitals, staff more homeless shelters, provide more crisis pregnancy centers, and run more schools than any other organization in the history of the world.

 

And so it shouldn’t surprise anyone to learn that if the state ever attempted to force the Church to change how She views or defines one of these seven sacraments, that the Church would have no choice but to object and possibly close operations. In fact, what secularists don’t understand is that if the Church allowed such a change the operations would eventually close anyway.

 

Why? Because making such a change would force the Church to behave as a secular organization.  And when was the last time you went to a non-profit hospital that was established by a secular humanist organization? When was the last time you saw a group of secular humanists volunteering at a secular humanist soup kitchen that they set up with donations from secular humanists? When was the last time you saw a secular humanist charity run a food drive, or provide volunteer counseling to unwed mothers?  When was the last time that you saw a bunch of secular humanists take a vow of lifelong poverty and celibacy in order to free themselves to serve in the poorest parts of the world?

 

The point is that the government and all of these well-meaning secularists miss a crucial point about the human spirit. Yes, we all have an altruistic streak. We all know that something has to be done to help the poor and those less-fortunate.  But, it is one thing to know this, and something entirely different to actually do something about it. And when it comes to the latter, it is the people of faith who do it much more frequently and much more efficiently.  That is exactly why the Church has the overwhelming charitable presence in the world.

 

The fatal error of people like Petula Dvorak – whose depth of Catholic experience she summarizes as ‘bike rides with Fr. Joe’ – is the false pelagian notion that the Church can still be the Church if She is forced to let go of Her most basic teachings. That somehow the selfless giving that has built hospitals and homeless shelters for 2000 years will continue if it is divorced from its source of grace in the seven sacraments.

 

But the Church knows better. She knows that allowing the state to dictate what the Church must support in the way of marriage or any other sacrament, would effectively reduce the Church to a secular humanist insititution. 

 

So, the Church is fighting for the poor when She stands up to the state in these matters. For if the state is allowed to strip religious organizations of their creed which drives them to service in the first place, then that will effectively eliminate their service to the poor altogether.  If the DC City Council wants to defund these charities because the Church doesn’t support same-sex marriage that is their choice.  But the Church will not change Her beliefs.

 

-  Mr. Looby is a graduate of Wadhams Hall Seminary and has been teaching Theology and Philosophy for 13 years.  In addition, he is a freelance writer and speaker on issues pertaining to the Catholic faith.

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Minority Report – Obama Drops Abstinence-Only Education for Sex Ed

by Christopher Gross

While the news has been dominated lately by the debate over healthcare reform and whether or not federal funds should be used for abortions, the upcoming debate over sex-education in schools has been thoroughly overshadowed but has not lost its significance. 

Months ago President Obama requested that federal funding for abstinence only programs be reallocated for “comprehensive sex-education programs” that preach contraception to teens.  Explaining his decision, Obama asserted that money should go where the scientific data demonstrates that it is most effective – and the data shows that “comprehensive sex-education” works. 

A recent study by the Task Force on Community Preventive seems to support Obama’s conclusion.  Reviewing 83 studies of sexual education programs conducted from 1980-2007, the panel agreed that “comprehensive sex-education programs” increase condom use, reduce the chance of getting AIDs and other infections, and generally reduce overall “risky” sexual behavior. 

However, they found the data concerning abstinence education inconclusive.  (See Washington Post  for a summary of their findings).  It should be noted that two of the 15 member panel disagreed with the report issued and filed a dissenting report, which claimed that sex-education does not significantly influence the sexual activity of teenagers.

Maybe not. 

Kevin Jennings is Obamas Safe Schools Czar and wrote a forward to a book entitled Queering Elementary Education

Kevin Jennings is Obama's Safe Schools Czar and wrote a forward to a book entitled "Queering Elementary Education"

Obama’s position and the majority report are troubling for a few different reasons.  First, the standard that Obama uses to argue in favor of withdrawing funding from abstinence education does not seem to apply to other policy areas.  For example, he has been a strong advocate of funding embryonic stem cell research, even though the scientific data has shown overwhelmingly that adult stem cells are safer and more medically useful now.  Second, proponents of abstinence education are at an obvious disadvantage in any debate that rests solely on empirical data.  Why?  Well, because if the number of sexually active teens decreases or the rate of STDs among teenagers goes down, then advocates of “comprehensive sex-education” will claim that it is due to the program.  However, if the numbers increase, proponents of the program will argue that justifies spending more money on the program.  After all, if more teenagers have STDs and are getting pregnant, then this is all the more reason to fund “comprehensive sex-education,” right? 

Let’s look at one number in particular.  A study released last year found that 1 in every 4 teenage girls has an STD.  (See USA Today).  Does this mean that we need to dump more money into “comprehensive sex-education”?  Maybe, or maybe it means that kids have heard the “safe-sex” message and are choosing to ignore it.  Teenagers are still immature, which is why they hopefully have responsible parents and rules.  They are reckless, rebellious, and curious.  They typically think that if there are possible bad consequences for acting in particular way, then they will somehow be immune to them.  Therefore, it should come as no surprise that teenagers, who can get condoms more easily than they can get alcohol, are not always using contraception. 

What does all this mean for the debate over abstinence vs. “comprehensive” sex-education?  Certainly, it calls into question the effectiveness of “comprehensive sex-education” and the conclusions reached in the majority report.  But in addition, it calls into question whether or not teaching kids that having premarital sex is okay as long as they use contraception is really a good idea.  Abstinence education rejects the idea that teenagers are going to have sex, so we should just teach them how to do it safely.  Some teenagers are going to have premarital sex, but should we build whole billion dollar programs around that fact?  After all, we do not do this in other policy areas.  We do not make cars and guardrails out of marshmallows, even though people are going to drive drunk. 

What if we begin not from the assumption that kids are going to sex, but from the fact that they are too young to have sex?  What if we stop doing damage control and actually begin trying to teach them about the value of their bodies, about the goodness of sex within marriage, and value of self-control and chastity?  What if we teach them that premarital sex not only can lead to STDs but also depression and severe emotional regret.  Perhaps this would be doing them a greater service than just teaching them how not to get pregnant or contract STDs.  Perhaps this would give us all real hope for our children—hope that isn’t divorced from truth!

- Mr. Gross is a doctoral candidate in moral theology/ethics at Catholic University of America, and also holds a B.A. in political science and religion from Hampden-Sydney and M.T.S. from Harvard Divinity.

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Showdown – Boycott Second Collection

This is the week that the Catholic Campaign for Human Development has approval from the US Bishops to solicit funds from parishes across America.  And it is a moment for all Catholics to say “No More!”

Previously, we wrote about the problems with CCHD and how Catholics should boycott the second collection that goes to support organizations that promote abortion, same-sex marriage and other things that run contrary to Church teaching.

We at the St. Michael Society have no idea why this second collection is still scheduled despite all of this controvery coming to light.  But, we hope that there is a good explantion.  And we stand by our plea to all of you to boycott this weekend’s second collection and to instead place a card that explains why you will not give your financial support to such an organization.

The following two videos are instructive on the specifics of CCHD and why Catholics cannot support it.

And here is the statement that we encourage Catholics everywhere to drop into the second collection basket this weekend. 

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